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Cary Tennis is still giving amazing advice . . .

Cary Tennis, Writer
The Thinker

A while back I posted a review of Cary Tennis’s book, Since You Asked, a compilation of his columns that appeared in (on?) from 2001-2013.

While Cary no longer writes for Salon, he continues to offer the sanest, most insightful, and empathetic advice online or offline — anywhere—on his own website.

Cary also conducts regular writing workshops, a few of which I have been lucky enough to attend. He also hosts some pretty cool jam sessions.


Have a problem? Chances are Cary Tennis Has a(n) answer

Since You Asked by Cary Tennis
Since You Asked by Cary Tennis

Cary Tennis has been penning the Since You Asked column for, since 2001, offering sagely advice on such topics as:

  • Help! I’m falling for a fat man — Weighing in, in Washington
  • My wife quit shaving her legs and it turns me off — Worried in South Carolina
  • I’m a gifted high achiever who wants to be a flight attendant —Undecided
  • At what point can I just give up on my son? — Giving Up on the Kid
  • Should I stick with my girlfriend through here cancer? — Confused in Colorado
  • If my wife dressed better, would gay guys stop hitting on me? — Amused in North Carolina
  • I used to be funny, but now I’m boring and self-conscious — Self-conscious
  • I’m not sure I have a self. How do I get one? — Missing in action

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Roger Ebert & Twitter: feel the love!

Roger Ebert and Twitter | Roger Scime | Critical Journalism
Roger TweEbert

For the  past few days, I’ve been following five people I consider influential on Twitter,

  • how often did they Tweet?
  • what times of the day?
  • what sort of things were they saying?
  • . . . things like that.

Well, one of the people I chose to follow was Roger Ebert of the Chicago Sun-Times, partly because I am a huge fan of his movie reviews, but also because I remembered a column he had written in 2009 in which he explained why he had hitherto been skeptical of the platform, but was finally willing to give it a try.. Like me, he was a late adopter and—also like me—he was a little dubious over what nuggets could be conveyed in a mere 140 characters.

In that particular October 2009 column, This just in: I am a Twit“, Mr. Ebert explains that he had realized his Twitteristance  was futile, and that he was finally willing to try it—at least as an experiment.

Well, it’s now a year and a half later and . . . well, all I can say is, “Tweet, tweet, tweet . . . that man’s got the beat!”

Mr. Ebert has become a Tweet machine! No kidding!

Here are just today’s (Sunday’s) stats—times are Central:

  • 6:00 AM – 10:00 AM: 8 Tweets
  • 10:00 AM – 2:00 PM: 7 Tweets
  • 2:00 PM – 7:00 PM 7 Tweets (as I type this)

That’s 22 Tweets over 14 hours (somebody check my math, please. I’m challenged); and it’s all original material! Of course, that shouldn’t have come as a surprise, as Mr. Ebert gave as his reason for finally giving in was:

my realization that I have a very special gift for writing messages of 144 characters, including spaces. Why should I selfishly hide this from the world?

Indeed, Mr. Ebert. Indeed!

Of course, that doesn’t beat Guy Kawasaki, who Tweeted 30 times between 8:00 AM and 4:40 (Pacific Time). But Mr. Kawasaki’s Tweets consisted exclusively of links to other sites.

Plus, unlike Mr. Ebert, who spread his Tweets out over the course of the day, Mr. Kawasaki seemed to clump his together beginning with 5 Tweets at 9:00 AM and reaching his apex at around the 1:00 mark, with a burst of 10. Maybe he had an appointment and wanted to get his quota out. Or maybe he just wanted to take a nap.

My other three choices were pretty much no-shows: Jon Stewart, Howard Kurtz, and Joss Whedon. I’d expected more from them, but belatedly recognized the hope that they might—just might—be hard at work . . . instead of trying to fit 15,000 word inspirations into 140 character slivers. One can only hope.

By the way: Pardon the mixed metaphor at the end, but this is social media, after all. And social media—as has been explained to me time and time again—means never never to have to say you’re sorry. Oops! I just said it.